The most common complaint that most parents have is, “My kids don’t listen!”
I know for myself when I ask my kids to do something and they don’t, I get really annoyed. I tend to talk to much and too loud. So I know that when they don’t respond, I am not asking them in a way that they can hear me.
Kids need help to listen. They can’t listen to a barrage of complaints or too many requests at once. They don’t respond well to criticism or drama. They like clear and concise instructions. If kids had their way, they would want us to keep our requests calm and neutral.
Here is what I mean:
For example:
Instead of:
“Why do you make a big deal out of everything!”
I try to say:
“Something is bothering you. I want to hear all about it. Let’s think of a time to sit down and talk about it.”
“How many times do I have to tell you to clear your place from the table?”
I try to say:
“Your plate is still on the table.”
Instead of:
“Pick up your clothes, you are being so lazy!”
I try to say:
“Your clothes need to be in the laundry hamper.”
Instead of:
“Why can’t you just do your job?Why do you always have to complain?”
I try to say:
“Help is required ASAP. Whining will have to be done later!”
Communicating with our kids is an acquired skill.
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