Moms Have Got A Lot To Do: Manage Your Time Effectively

Sometimes I feel like my world is spinning out of control. There is always so much to do, laundry, grocery shopping, cooking and cleaning. In our fast paced world it is important to stop and think about effective ways to manage our time.

Julie Morgenstern, in her book “Time Management from the Inside Out” advises her clients to design a schedule for themselves based on their strengths.

She asks readers to assess the following areas and counsels that there are no right or wrong answers.

Do you prefer to:
Concentrate in short bursts or for long stretches?
Focus on one thing at a time or multitask?
A busy, fast paced schedule or a slow, easy schedule?
Predictable plans or spontaneity?
Work under pressure or long lead times?
Make quick decisions or think things over?
Working independently or collaboratively?
Exercising alone or with others?
Shopping alone or with others?
Relaxing alone or with others?
Working with quiet or with noise?
Working with your head or working with your hands?

Morgenstern continues, “This information will help you plan a schedule that makes you happy and productive. If you thrive on a fast pace, you should try to fill your days with several activities; if you prefer a slower pace, you might limit your daily to do list to three or four items. Stop trying to fight who you are. Someone who responds well to very tight deadlines should try to schedule his or her time that way……. Paying attention to your natural rhythms and accepting them as a testament to who you are will result in a schedule that supports you instead of one that works against you.”

How can we use this information to help mothers of young children to plan their day?
Women who work better with their heads instead of their hands, will find themselves exhausted with the physical demands of their 0-3 year olds. Being a mother of young children forces women to multitask, make quick decisions and work amidst lots of noise. Mom’s who work well with quiet, with long lead times, have difficulty focusing on more than one thing at a time and like to work alone are at a serious disadvantage. These women may compare themselves to other Mothers and feel that they come up short. It is hard to “pay attention to your natural rhythms” under these circumstances. These women need to make extra efforts to take care of themselves. Hiring a babysitter, waking up early in the morning before the kids are up, using the babies nap time to catch up on their work are all some suggestions that can enable these Moms to nurture themselves and schedule their time productively.

On the other hand, women who like to have people around them, like to shop, relax and exercise with others, need to make time for social stimulation. Mom’s of young children often feel isolated and lonely. Talking on the phone, making dates to walk or jog with the babies in their strollers and taking the children to the park where other Mom’s hang out is a necessity.

Using your strengths to manage your time effectively enables you to make the most of your day. Using this information when you are parenting young children is an invaluable skill. It can ensure that Mother’s needs are being met, the best way to ensure that they are parenting effectively.

Morgenstern, J. (2004). Time Management From The Inside Out. NY: Henry Holt and Company.